Feeling lonely
Most people feel lonely sometimes, for many different reasons. If loneliness is affecting your life, there are things you can try that may help.
Support is also available if you're finding it hard to cope with stress, anxiety or depression.
Do
try talking about your feelings to a friend, family member, health professional or counsellor. You could also contact Samaritans, call: 116 123 or email: jo@samaritans.org if you need someone to talk to
consider joining a group or class that focuses on something you enjoy; you could ask to go along and just watch first if you're feeling nervous
consider visiting places where you can just be around other people – for example, a park, the cinema or a cafe
consider peer support, where people use their experiences to help each other. Find out more about peer support from Mind
get practical tips and advice to help with loneliness on Every Mind Matters
try the 6 ways to feel happier, which are simple lifestyle changes to help you feel more in control and able to cope
find out how to raise your self-esteem
listen to free mental wellbeing audio guides
Don't
do not try to do everything at once; set small targets that you can easily achieve
do not focus on the things you cannot change – focus your time and energy into helping yourself feel better
try not to compare yourself to others. On social media you usually only see things people want to share
try not to tell yourself that you're alone – many people feel lonely at some point in their life and support is available
try not to use alcohol, cigarettes, gambling or drugs to relieve loneliness; these can all contribute to poor mental health
Further information and support
- Mind: loneliness
- Mind: self-esteem
- Every Mind Matters: get your free Mind Plan – get personalised mental wellbeing tips and advice to your email inbox
If you need more support, you can get free talking therapies like cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) on the NHS.
You can refer yourself directly to a talking therapies service without a referral from a GP.
Find an NHS talking therapies service
See a GP if:
- you're struggling to cope with stress, anxiety or a low mood
- you've had a low mood for more than 2 weeks
- things you're trying yourself are not helping
- you would prefer to get a referral from a GP
Call 111 or ask for an urgent GP appointment if:
- you need help urgently, but it's not an emergency
111 can tell you the right place to get help if you need to see someone. Go to NHS 111 online or call: 111
Call 999 or go to A&E now if:
- you or someone you know needs immediate help
- you have seriously harmed yourself – for example, by taking a drug overdose
A mental health emergency should be taken as seriously as a medical emergency.
Loneliness has many different causes and it can affect people of all ages.
It's often linked with things that could prevent you spending time with other people, such as:
- living or working alone
- retirement
- illness or disability
- bereavement (losing someone or something)
- moving to a new area, job, school or university
- social anxiety (social phobia)
However, you do not have to be on your own all the time to feel lonely. Many people feel lonely in a relationship or while spending time with friends or family.
Other significant life events such as buying a house, having a baby or planning a wedding could also lead to feelings of loneliness.
You might find it hard to explain to people why you feel this way, but talking to someone could help you find a solution.
Find out more about the 5 steps to mental wellbeing
Loneliness can affect people at any age, but older people are especially vulnerable to social isolation.
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